There are two ways that I've done a deep clean on the emotion of Fear.
The first time, I did it using the same format that I use for Resentments.
The second time, I simply listed of all of my current Fears, grouped them together into
a few different categories, and then plugged each group into a neutralizing technique.
Below is the same format I use for resentments, modified for fears.
Col 1 Col 2 Col 3 Col 4 Col 5 Col 6 Col 7
What Layers Needs P&P Part Hand Notes
Column 1 = Who or What
What am I afraid of?
Column 2 = Layers of Feelings
I list any other emotions that I feel underneath the fear.
Column 3 = Needs (Affected or Unmet)
What is the core need beneath all the layers of emotions?
What other needs are affected by this fear?
Column 4 = Prayer & Pause (P&P)
I read the fear prayer or secular script below,
and then Pause and see what comes up in the form of an inspiration or intuitive thought.
Non-Christians can substitute whatever word they want for the word "God".
The secular version is below the prayer.
"God, self-reliance and reliance on other human beings has failed me.
Human power is as good as far as it goes, but it doesn't go far enough.
Even great self-confidence doesn't fully solve the fear problem or any other.
I think there is a better way.
I am now living on a different basis - on the basis of trusting and relying upon a Higher Power.
I trust infinite God, rather than my finite self.
God, I trust You and know that spirituality is the way of strength, not weakness.
I never apologize to anyone for depending upon You.
The verdict of the ages is that faith means courage.
All people of faith have courage and trust their Higher Power.
God, I am willing to let You demonstrate through me what You can do. I am in this world to play the role You assign.
Just to the extent that I do as I think You would have me, and humbly rely on You, do You enable me to match calamity with serenity.
Please remove my fear and direct my attention to what You would have me be."
After reading the prayer, I pause and see what comes up in the form of an inspiration/intuitive thought.
I write down what came up during the pause in Column 4.
"Reliance on flawed humans and outdated strategies to meet my needs, especially to provide me with safety and connection, has failed me.
I am now living on a different basis.
I know there is no absolute safety. Unexpected things can happen at any time.
But it has been a long time since anything truly terrible has happened to me.
I am no longer in the care of distracted or disconnected people.
I am not going to waste every moment worrying about things that might happen but, just as likely, won't happen.
Instead, I turn my attention to letting the Creative Intelligence of Life demonstrate through me what it can do.
To the extent that I allow Life to express itself through me fully, as intended,
am I enabled to fulfill my potential – to be who I was designed to be and to do what I was designed to do."
After reading the script, I pause and see what comes up in the form of an inspiration/intuitive thought.
I write down what came up during the pause in Column 4.
Column 5 = My Part
I write down what my part is in each fear.
What beliefs do I have about myself, others, the world, or life itself?
Who or what am I relying on?
Column 6 = Handle
I share Columns 1-5 with a safe person,
who can help me identify patterns and find handles, all of which I write down in Column 6.
Column 7 = Neutralizing Notes
I use a neutralizing technique for each pattern and handle listed in Column 6.
(I find the TAT™ especially helpful for this. See Neutralizing Approaches & Techniques.)
After neutralizing each anchor, I write down what technique I used,
what the anchor was, and any insights that came up.
What was the anchor?
What was the old story that I was telling myself about each fear?
What belief(s) did I uncover?
What is my New Understanding of what happened?
What new beliefs seem possible now?
What is my New Story?
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