RE-ACTIVATED TRAUMA
When an internal reaction that we had during a past event comes back up in response to something happening in the present,
it is commonly said that we are triggered or activated.
This can happen if some aspect of the present situation is similar in some way to the past event.
If the past event was an unresolved trauma, strong negative emotions typically come up,
and we may become emotionally dysregulated, unable to control our emotions or how we respond to them.
We may have an angry outburst, feel terrified or overwhelmed, or do something impulsive or compulsive.
To others, our reaction may seem out of proportion to the current situation (because it is).
To us, our reaction will seem completely appropriate (because it was apppropriate in the original situation it is connected to).
This association between the present and the past is usually happening subconsciously.
We may not be aware that we are triggered or even consciously remember the traumatic event from our past.
The most helpful thing someone can do when we get triggered is tell us,
"Calm down! You're over-reacting."
Just kidding! That doesn't help at all.
Unless they hand us a mint when they say it.
(Still kidding!)
Our dysregulated, or curiously strong, emotional reactions can cause problems in relationships, school, work, and daily life.