BASIC NEEDS
Our feelings are messengers trying to tell us what our needs are.
Underneath all the layers of our emotions, at the core, lies a true, valid need.
I like to categorize all of my needs into one of the 6 Basic Human Needs categories spoken of by Tony Robbins.
When it comes to resolving trauma, I like to focus on the first 4 of these basic human needs:
- Connection
Attunement - to be deeply seen, heard, and understood
Secure Attachment
Love
Belonging - Significance
Importance
To Matter
To be Special - Certainty
Survival - air, water, food, shelter, etc
Safety
Security - Emotional or Financial
Stability
Solitude
Comfort
Health
Well-Being - Uncertainty
Novelty (Newness)
Variety
Spontaneity
Adventure
Pleasant Surprises - Growth
Personal Development
Emotional Maturity
Self-Realization - Contribution
Help Accomplish Something
Add Value
Uplift
Once my first 4 basic needs are being met on a consistent basis, then I turn my attention to the other 2 basic human needs:
For many of us, our basic needs were not met on a consistent basis when we were growing up.
We may not even be aware of what the basic needs of humans are.
Learning about them can be life-changing.