Welcome!
This website is a collection of what I have learned, and continue to learn,
about de-escalating and neutralizing disruptive emotional reactions
that have their roots in unresolved childhood trauma.
Neutralizing trauma is just one step in the trauma healing process.
It can be a very helpful step for reducing drama, harm, chaos, and cravings.
When an old trauma response has been re-activated,
we instantly start reliving the past trauma (usually subconsciously).
This can be extremely de-stabilizing and disrupt our whole day, week or month.
Our nervous systems go into survival mode,
cutting us off from accessing some other important areas of our brains.
In this state, we can cause emotional, psychological or physical harm
to ourselves, others, or our relationships.
In order to get our nervous system regulated again,
we need to feel safe again.
The quickest way I know of to feel safe again is to gently
uncover the past trauma and neutralize it (resolve it).
Because of what is going on in our nervous systems,
it can be extremely difficult to jump straight into the neutralizing process.
I have found that it helps to de-escalate our reactions first, getting our nervous systems
to calm down so we can at least partially access some of those other parts of our brains.
On this journey, I have found the following things to be true:
- To neutralize childhood trauma, I do not need to be able to remember the trauma - or even remember my childhood.
I do remember most of my childhood, but I have met plenty of people, who do not, and they are still able to neutralize (resolve) their unresolved trauma. - In the process of neutralizing childhood trauma, I also end up neutralizing generational trauma - personal and collective trauma that has been passed down through generations genetically or behaviorally in my family and in my culture.
- Having support on this journey is essential.
I am very self-reliant and can do a lot on my own, but self-reliance only goes so far. It has its limits. Receiving guidance and support from a professional is very helpful and, at times, absolutely necessary. I receive guidance and support from someone who had over 14 years of personal trauma integration experience when we started working together and who had mentored many others before me. - Those of us with addictions, physical health conditions, or mental health conditions may need an expert in that condition to provide additional support and guidance on our trauma neutralizing journey.