OLD METHODS
I found it very helpful to take an inventory of defective strategies that I use to get my needs met.
It helped me clear out space for new, healthy methods to enter my awareness.
I regard these unhealthy methods as invevitable consequences of unresolved trauma (effects of trauma).
Below are some common ones.
For each one I ask myself,
What need(s) did/does this method meet?
and/or, What need(s) am/was I trying to meet by using this method?
Addictions
7 Deadly Sins
Disturbing Personality Traits
Victim Thinking
Drama
Problematic Boundary Styles